Some very important news I would like to share with all of you!
January 31, 2014 at 10:45 pm #36859
After a period of confusion and even more confusion, followed by just trying not to think about, followed by more confusion, followed by actually doing research, I have made the discovery that I am asexual, which makes everything finally make sense to me. As a community that has over the years been like and treated me like family, I felt it appropriate to share this revelation with all of you here.
For the Commonwealth!February 1, 2014 at 1:58 am #36878CatKeymaster
That’s a big deal, dude! As I’m sure you’re well aware, asexuality in humans is only beginning to be defined. Opening your mind up to the concept of asexuality no doubt can help you provide some clarity on the journey discovering yourself. My only caution is not to rush to define yourself. I see a lot of young people lately eagerly defining themselves in gender, sexuality, and other expressions of inner self. Especially for teens who find themselves on the outside of the binary world, defining one’s self can be very empowering. It’s important to feel like you belong and that you’re in tune with yourself. Just make sure that in embracing a definition you’re not putting perimeters on how you feel comfortable expressing yourself.
We all evolve as individuals, and asexuality offers much in the way of fluidity. Don’t hesitate to discover and re-discover yourself. And ultimately – just do what feels right. No one gets to tell you how to feel good (and complete, and whole) but you.February 1, 2014 at 9:36 am #36881huduvuduParticipant
Cap said it better than I could, but I want to offer my support and am glad you have a venue to talk this kind of thing out.February 1, 2014 at 10:09 am #36882
Don’t worry, I have already considered all of this-like I said I did my research, and this conclusion is not the result of desperation for identity, it’s the result of me learning about every single other sexual identity and not fitting any of them, and then finding out what actually defines someone as asexual, as vague as that definition is in itself. However, my mind is open about this kind of thing, and I appreciate your concern- and please know that I am not just yelling out to every single person I know this information, just those who are used to this kind of topic and those I trust.
For the Commonwealth!February 1, 2014 at 10:59 am #36884GarayurParticipant
Congratulations! I know how empowering it can be to understand and define a part of yourself.
garayurcosplay.tumblr.comFebruary 1, 2014 at 1:11 pm #36886
Thanks for the support- but to be a bit more specific, I identify under the more specific category of grey-asexual. Though rare, and under very limited circumstances there come times when one has an extremely low sexual drive, and even so goes away with the smallest bit of distraction, and never develops into an urge. Part of what kept me from figuring out an identity in the past was the confusion was “How could I be asexual if that happens sometimes.” Again, asexual can be a bit of a broad term. I’m just glad that as a nerd confusion led to curiosity and research on a topic I didn’t understand.
For the Commonwealth!February 3, 2014 at 8:37 am #36919boRKeymaster
I’m a bit jealous of you. It seems like it’d be a lot easier to not have sex as a motivation at all, and I’ve often thought about that. Anyways, kudos to you. I’ll just be over here, burdened with rampant heterosexuality.March 8, 2014 at 11:49 am #37604
So, uh, I’ve been spending time on AVEN (Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) and talking with people there to get to know some other peole like me and help figure myself out a little better- apparently I’m just regular ace, not Grey A, which took a little figuring out. I’ve also gotten some people interested about Dungeons and Doritos while I’m there too. Nerdy Show may very well have some new listeners in the near future.
For the Commonwealth!March 8, 2014 at 1:08 pm #37605CatKeymaster
@mopkins Aces! (See what I.. um did there?) Didn’t know ace was asexual slang, I’ve gotta say, that’s pretty cool.
Glad you’re getting things figured out dude. That’s awesome that there’s a resource for that. Also awesome that there’s some new D&D fans being indoctrinated by Galdap Jr.March 10, 2014 at 4:27 am #37666MParticipant
I think being able to find a definition for yourself (whether it’s a sexual matter or otherwise) the way you’re comfortable with can have surprising big positive effect on your well being, kinda lets you live your life the way that makes you happy instead of a way that would have to conform to a set expectation. Congratulations if you’ve found a fitting one for this part of yourself.
… Sorry if that sounded weird. 🙂
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